Selling Is Hard, Pitching Is Easy

The Advisory Playbook for Dominating the $4.3 Trillion Healthcare Game

By John B Millen III

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About This Book

Transform from commodity broker to high-status advisor who controls the frame, exposes hidden costs, and closes with commitment fees. This book teaches benefits advisors, insurance brokers, and sales professionals how to stop selling and start pitching.

The healthcare benefits industry is a $4.3 trillion capital allocation game. Most brokers never get higher than the surface layer—renewals, spreadsheets, carrier discounts, network logos. This book shows you how to access the 90% of the iceberg they never see, where the real money lives.

Core Methodologies & Concepts

Table of Contents

Chapter 1: Preface - What If Selling Was Actually Fun?

Most salespeople hate the actual process of selling—the prospecting, pitching, follow-up, waiting, and rejection. They tolerate it for the commission. This chapter challenges that assumption and introduces a different way to approach sales that makes the work itself enjoyable.

Key insight: The best salespeople don't have a different personality—they have a different process. They're running a completely different playbook that makes the work feel fun.

Chapter 2: Introduction - Why This Book Exists

The classic scene: You arrive early, set up your presentation, and wait for the executives. The CEO shows up late. You thank them profusely for their time. In five seconds, you've surrendered all your status and lost the sale before you even started.

Key insight: The sale isn't lost because of what you present—it's lost because of how you show up. This book teaches the shift from "I hope they like me" to "Let's see if this deserves my time."

Chapter 3: Frame Control

Every interaction has a frame—an invisible set of rules that determines who's in charge. When you walk into a prospect's office and let them run the meeting, you've accepted their frame. This chapter teaches you how to set and maintain your own frame.

Key insight: The person who controls the frame controls the outcome. Learn to recognize frame games and never lose your frame again.

Chapter 4: Status

Status isn't about your title or your company—it's about how you carry yourself in the room. Most salespeople unknowingly telegraph low status through their words, body language, and behavior. This chapter shows you how to elevate your status without arrogance.

Key insight: High-status advisors get invited to the real conversations. Low-status vendors get invited to quote.

Chapter 5: Croc Brain

Before your brilliant ideas reach your prospect's logical mind, they must first pass through the "croc brain"—the primitive part of the brain that decides in milliseconds whether something is friend, foe, or irrelevant. Most presentations fail because they're designed for the logical brain but delivered to the croc brain.

Key insight: Your pitch must be croc brain-friendly: simple, visual, high contrast, and emotionally engaging. Complexity kills deals.

Chapter 6: Pitching

A pitch is not a presentation. It's not a 60-slide deck. It's not a "dog and pony show." A pitch is a carefully constructed 20-minute conversation designed to create desire, urgency, and commitment. This chapter breaks down the exact structure.

Key insight: The 20-minute pitch structure: Introduce yourself and the big idea (5 minutes), explain the problem/opportunity (10 minutes), offer the solution and next steps (5 minutes).

Chapter 7: Hooks & Hot Cognitions

Attention is the currency of sales. This chapter teaches you how to grab attention with powerful hooks and trigger "hot cognitions"—emotional responses that bypass logical resistance and create immediate interest.

Key insight: Hot cognitions include desire, novelty, tension, and fear of missing out. Learn to create these deliberately, not accidentally.

Chapter 8: Eradicating Neediness

Neediness is the kiss of death in sales. The moment a prospect senses you need the deal more than they need your solution, you've lost all leverage. This chapter teaches you how to eliminate neediness and project confidence.

Key insight: Abundance mindset isn't about pretending you don't care. It's about genuinely having enough opportunities that any single deal doesn't make or break you.

Chapter 9: Case Studies

Real-world examples of these principles in action. See how benefits advisors transformed their practices by applying frame control, status dynamics, and the 20-minute pitch methodology.

Key insight: These aren't theoretical concepts—they're proven strategies used by top-performing advisors in the healthcare benefits space.

Chapter 10: Commitment Fees

The ultimate goal: getting paid for your advisory expertise, not just earning commissions for placing business. This chapter teaches you how to introduce and justify commitment fees that position you as a true advisor.

Key insight: Commitment fees separate serious prospects from tire-kickers and establish you as a high-value advisor, not a commodity vendor.

Chapter 11: Conclusion

Bringing it all together: how to implement these strategies in your practice and transform from a broker who sells to an advisor who pitches.

Key insight: The shift is permanent. Once you see the game differently, you can never go back to the old way of selling.

About the Author

John B. Millen III co-founded and grew a high-performance employee benefits advisory firm with his wife Laura, who served as Senior Managing Partner. The firm achieved industry-leading profitability and growth before a successful exit. His career started at Mobil Oil in 1992, where he trained in SPIN and Sandler, and he went on to help employers and advisors shift from spreadsheet selling to outcome-driven pitches.

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